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Grief Conversations

you don’t have to navigate loss alone

When the terrain is unfamiliar,

a lay of the land

After folks can put down the logistical weight they’ve been carrying, after having the same conversation the hundred and fiftieth time, when the adage ‘time heals’ rings hollow, that’s when most clients check in with me. My clients understand their emotions are telling them something, but they aren’t looking for the weight of therapy. They are looking forward. They are looking to meet the moment, understand what they’ve gone through, and be intentional about the path forward. That’s what I can help with.

‍Folks need help navigating this unfamiliar time. Losing a loved one is a common part of the human experience but each of us experiences it a few times. As a culture, we don’t talk about grief enough to know it intimately. And the time to learn about it is not when you’re in it. To lift a line from my kids, “You can’t make lava boots when you’re standing in lava!”

When you’re disoriented, empty, or already leaning heavily on your partner— this is a season to ask for some help. Nowadays, our village and tribe are spread out. So we need to find someone who has gone through it to orient ourselves for the path ahead. After all, to live is to go forth.

Reflections from Past Clients

  • "I can be entirely vulnerable with you, go to pieces and come back together, and walk away feeling like I can do this."

  • "... so much richness here. THANK YOU for going to another level of listening and capturing and then creating a framework. I've never had this experience of someone else making this effort to understand me in a way that makes my thoughts and images of my life better understood."

  • "I was taking my anger out on my family and thought I had good reason. What Manjusri did that actually helped was give me something small to test each week. Turns out, I was actually just terrified of failing the person I'd lost."

A Different Approach

The first useful framework is that “grief is not only an emotion but a core human faculty. It is a skill that must be developed, or we will find ourselves migrating to the margins of our lives in hopes of avoiding the inevitable entanglements with loss.”

Weighty words, but true. The skill is understanding that grief is love, and finding ways to build that love into your life. They say: There is no single right way to grieve. That is because our grief is based on the person we lost. The path forward is also based on the person we lost. Who they were with us, and who we were with them. That relationship doesn’t have to be extinguished.

I’ve learned these lessons through my lived experience, losing my father and my brother, as well as my research. I use my past training as a legal mediator to bring clarity to your inner monologue and help you navigate this weighty time through light conversation. I incorporate tools from top researchers and teachers, including the works of William Worden, Irvin D Yalom, Taosim, and Theravada Buddhism. My aim is to help you talk through a map of moving forward.

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I provide a free 15 minute consultation for potential clients to understand your goals and check in to make sure we’re a good fit in working together!

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